“Skinny” and Other Dirty Words

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“Everything is permissible,” but not everything is helpful. “Everything is permissible,” but not everything builds up.

1 Corinthians 10:23

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Our family has a list of ‘no-no’ words we don’t throw around lightly:

  • Hate.
  • Stupid.
  • Butt.
  • Fart.

I can’t stand them. They are ‘dirty words’ around here – and, I always tell my kids: you are way to smart and classy to need to use these cheap words to communicate an idea.

A couple other ‘dirty words’ in our house are “skinny” and “exercise”.

Skinny is a burdensome word. It’s shallow, and base, and empty. It drives me crazy to see commercials about ‘being skinny’ or ‘getting skinny’; I just about come out of my skin when I read blogs that focus on how to get a ‘hot, skinny bod’ or where women flash photos of their ‘skinny’ selves as the ‘standard’ that all of us other women need to strive for.

Skinny means nothing, okay? Nothing at all. Skinny does not mean healthy, happy, or confident. Skinny does not mean fit. Skinny does not mean ‘good mommy’, ‘hot woman’, or ‘successful lady’. No – skinny just means ‘skinny’… and I’ve seen my share of ‘skinny’ that looks frail, and weak, and gray.

What the real goal should be – and what I tell my girls all the time – is: forget skinny, focus on healthy!

  • Focus on how you eat and what you eat: Are you eating whole foods? Fruits? Fresh vegetables? Drinking lots of water?
  • Be aware of your body: Is it strong? Is it energized? Can you make it do what you want it to do, and can you wear what you want to wear? Is it sickly? Is it tired? Does your body burden you, or do feel like you have control? How do you feel after you eat certain things and/or certain portion sizes?
  • Watch your cravings: Are you in control, or do you eat mindlessly? Can you say no when you want to?

…Because the fact of the matter is this: our bodies are a reflection of our lifestyle. If we focus on a healthy lifestyle, obtaining a lean, fit body won’t be a burden and obsession – it will be a natural consequence.

The other dirty word is ‘exercise’. It’s loaded, and crushing, and heavy, and exhausts us before we even begin the day… and you will never hear me tell my kids to exercise.

I can just hear you now: What, Elisha? You don’t tell your kids to exercise?

No. Never. And I am directly opposed to all the ‘get up and move’ campaigns that are everywhere these days. Why?

Because I don’t want to raise kids that think they can out-exercise a bad food foundation. Period.

Every day in my house is a new day to impress upon my children if we eat out of boxes, wrappers, and fast food windows; if we eat mindlessly and indulge whenever we feel the urge; if we don’t understand how food impacts us physically; if we don’t cook and instead depend on corporations to nourish us – ‘exercise’ won’t do a thing for health.

What I also tell them is they should pay attention to the body they’ve been blessed with, and honor it. We must think – and choose. We must honor our body by using our body –  by making it stronger, feeding it well, resting it when it needs rest, pushing it’s limits, and listening to it when it gives signs like sickness, weight gain, and weakness. I encourage them not to ‘exercise’, but to do what they’ve been created with an ability to do: play, run, jump, kick, skateboard, dribble; stretch; move; take a walk; breathe fresh air.

And, on the flip side, I teach them what is not honoring…

  • It’s not honoring to our bodies to sit around all day playing technology…
  • It’s not honoring to our bodies to be lazy…
  • It’s not honoring to our bodies to make food choices that burden us with extra weight, and make us sick and tired…
  • It’s not honoring to our bodies to be mindless with our health, our physical being, our existence.

See, I don’t want my kids to grow up with ‘skinny’ as a goal, or ‘exercise’ as a burden, or victims of their physical bodies, or fearful of food. I DO want my kids to grow up understanding that a healthy, fit body is a free body – and a healthy, fit body naturally flows from choosing the right foods and choosing to honor the bodies they were uniquely created with.

My heart is for my kids to take joy in owning, using, and moving their bodies – and, yes, that may mean they find joy in weight training, or running, or zumba – all those things we term as ‘exercise’ these days. But, again, they will do it by choice and from a desire to push their physical limits – not out of blind allegiance to the buzz word of our time. I want my kids to grow up – particularly my girls – with confidence that, even during seasons where their bodies will change (through age, pregnancy, life), self-control is always theirs… always.

I’m raising my kids to see that truly healthy children – and truly healthy adults! – are healthy and fit in mind first They:

…intrinsically value themselves, and make choices that show it.

…understand how to be in the world without being overcome by the world.

…are honest with themselves and know their choices directly impact their overall well being.

…recognize they are strong.

…recognize they are powerful.

…recognize they are in control of what they become.

And, they, with wide eyes, see the mountain of life in front of them and can’t help but rise to the challenge, wield their body as a perfectly hewn tool, and climb.

Quinoa, Kale, Lentil Soup for a Cold Night…

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Last night I made this amazing soup that wow’d the family… so I thought you should have it. I mean, who doesn’t love a savory warm soup on a cold January night?!

And don’t worry: the hardest part of this recipe is literally having the ingredients on hand. This is me, remember: if it doesn’t cook quick and easy, I’m probably not making it. LOL

Here ya go… let me know how it turns out!

  • approx 1/4 cup EVOO (extra virgin olive oil)
  • 1 small onion, diced
  • 3 cloves of garlic, crushed and diced
  • 1.5 cups dried lentils, rinsed and drained
  • 4 cups of chicken broth (or vegetable broth)
  • 1 small bunch of kale, stems trimmed off and diced
  • 1 cup chopped carrots (I used the bite sized carrots and cut them into little circles)
  • 1/2 tsp cumin
  • 1/4 cup soy sauce
  • black pepper to taste
  • 2 cups pre-cooked quinoa
  1. Warm a soup pot and add the EVOO.
  2. Saute the onion for about a minute then add the garlic. Continue to saute (stirring constantly so the garlic doesn’t burn) until onion is translucent.
  3. Add the dry lentils to the pot.
  4. Add broth,  cumin, soy sauce, and black pepper. Bring pot to a boil, then cover and turn down to medium low to simmer until beans are tender. This should take about 10-15 minutes… so start keeping an eye on them after about 10 minutes. (You don’t want it to crazy boil because it will demolish the beans. Just a gentle simmer is what you’re looking for.)
  5. When beans are tender, add the chopped kale and carrots. Push all the veggies down into the beans, recover, and simmer for 5 or so more minutes (until veggies are tender). If you need a little more liquid so that everything submerges, add a little extra water. You want the soup thick, but still soupy.
  6. Remove from heat and serve!

DSC02817To serve: dish up 1/2 cup quinoa and ladel 1 cup soup over the top for bigger eaters (or 1/4 cup quinoa to 1/2 cup soup for smaller eaters). Top off with some ground chili paste or crushed red chili peppers. Lick your lips… enjoy!

Rebel on,

Elisha

 

 

A Year for Walkin’

Growing up in a gym was an interesting place – especially back in the golden days of bodybuilding. Yes, you had your “novices” that would come and pump iron. But, for the most part, the guys (and I say guys because there weren’t many women that came to my dad’s gym) that came to our place were at the top of their game. They were all super buff, super cut, super in love with the sport.

The thing about bodybuilders that I find most intriguing, however, is their willingness to help others improve. If you had a question about a particular exercise, or if you wanted to train a particular body part a little harder, you just had to ask. There was no judgement, no snobbery, no holding tips and tricks close to the chest. Nope – the truly great bodybuilders wanted to share their wisdom… and they were always eager to encourage you to be your best.

YOUR best.

See -that’s the thing: you have your best, I have my best. Your best will never be my best, and vice versa. This is why I think the guys in the gym never hesitated to give each other a helping hand.

The key for all of us should simply be finding our personal best – the utmost of who we can be.

Our utmost is something only we can discover for ourselves. We can take cues from others and find ideals we’d like to mimic… but we are still who we are. Our natural physique, our habits, our preferences, the season of life we are in all influence who we are at this very moment. Let’s not forget that. Yes, it may be nice to look like J-Lo or a Victorias Secret model or (fill in the blank) – but WE ARE NOT THEM! We are US.

So, with the new year let’s be rebellious together. Let stop looking at others and measuring our “success” (or lack thereof) by them – and let’s simply look at ourselves with honesty and say, “Is this my utmost?”

If you say “yes”, amen! I hope that you’ll email me and share you story with me. Seriously – I could use the encouragement!

But if you answer “no”, which is my answer – then it’s time to do some soul searching, set some goals, and start walking… start doing whatever it takes to create the lives for ourselves (and our families) that we’ve been talking and dreaming about.

One foot in front of the other – walk, walk, walk.

One of my favorite movie quotes if from a movie most people have never seen called Hustle and Flow and it says:

There are two types of people: those that talk the talk and those that walk the walk. People who walk the walk sometimes talk the talk but most times they don’t talk at all, cause they walkin’

Let’s make this a year of walkin’ and not talkin’. Let’s not talk about how we want to eat better, let’s eat better! Let’s not talk about how we want a better marriage, let’s do the work and make it better! Let’s not talk about how we wish we had more time to read, let’s turn off the TV and get to reading! Let’s not talk about how we need to declutter, let’s declutter one shelf at a time!

Walkin’… that’s it. Today – the first Monday of a brand new year. It’s a perfect day for a walk, isn’t it?

You Are What You Eat


**Click on photo for source – it’s a great article called, “Picture Show: You Are What You Eat”.

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Here is the truth: more exercise is not the solution to the obesity epidemic.

There, I said it.

I am so tired of hearing over and over and over that we have to “get moving”, “play an hour a day”, “exercise more”. Exercise is important – but it is not answer to the weight issues in this country. Why?  Because you can spend hours and hours running and lifting and “playing”, but if your food is not right, you’ll never – NEVER! – meet your bodily goals.

I really got riled up about this yesterday when I read a story of a personal trainer named Drew who, to prove a point, is going from fit, to fat and back to fit again. Before beginning this journey, Drew was not only in shape – he was in phenomenal shape. Now, 6 months later, with an unrestricted diet Drew has gained over 70 pounds! How? By consuming a “typical American diet” . (You can check him out, including week by week photos of his transformation here:www.fit2fat2fit.com.)

The reason why Drew’s story caught my attention is because it’s what my dad went through every time he went from off-season training to “competition physique”. As a child of a bodybuilder I saw first hand, year after year after year, that our food decisions dramatically impact our physique. My dad would effectuate changes in his body not with more exercise (he worked out long and hard both on and off season), but with food. Off season he ate as he pleased – but before competition his diet became very thoughtful, intentional and refined. Yes, he was exercising – but food was the key to his success each and every time.

Food is the foundation of all that we are. Whatever we look like on the outside is a reflection of what we’re putting on the inside.  I get so frustrated by all these exercise campaigns because by making the conversation about exercise, it distracts us away from the source of the problem: that what we are eating  is creating our body to begin with.

Take a step back and think of a house for a minute – a beautiful, home with great bones and great potential. The house has been left alone for years and is in desperate need of everything to bring it back into new life. It needs things as basic as paint and new fixtures and a new roof and windows. But, more importantly, the foundation is badly cracked and has significantly compromised a portion of the house.

Now, whether you’ve ever remodeled a house or not, it would go against all common sense to go in and repaint the walls, replace fixtures and re-roof the house without first addressing what’s holding the entire house up to begin with: the foundation. Right? I mean, no matter how much work you do to “pretty” things up, the fact the house is broken at it’s foundation means nothing you do will be long lasting.

The same thing applies to our bodily “house”. Until our food foundation is fixed, exercise is like painting a wall in that falling down house. It might make you feel a little better; and, because you’re doing “something”, it might help you to ignore the cracked foundation… at least for awhile. But until the foundation is addressed, you will be fighting an uphill battle to keep that house standing.

Now, am I saying don’t exercise? Of course not! We were created to move and use our bodies, not to mention that exercise makes you feel stronger and super awesome.  What I am saying, however, is this: you can make leaps and bounds to better health without spending three hours in a gym everyday or running 50 miles a week if you simply STOP EATING, START NOURISHING.

It’s all about FOOD.

All you have to do is decide right now, right where you are, that you’re going to take control of what you take in. REBEL against the campaigns that burden you with one more thing to further burden your already scheduled-out life. Don’t think for one more minute that until you have time to step foot in a gym that you can’t do better. YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF THE ONE THING THAT MATTERS… and I’ll say it again, what matters is F-O-O-D. You can start making changes right now!!

We are, plain and simple, what we eat… and it would do us good to remember that no amount of paint can fix up a broken house on a failing foundation.

That’s my rebel thought for the day.